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TIME OUT - FOR CARERS
Could you please ask if parents or primary carers could let us know of ways that they have managed to achieve any time out for themselves and what this involves. Even if it is only managing to have a coffee with friends and what the benefits of this is for them.
Meet with an old friend for dinner after your child has gone to bed. Support outside and getting away from it all and talking about old interests.
Meet with other mums who have children on the spectrum. Support and commonality.
Meeting at each others houses is usually easier.
Join a gym and go on weekends for a class, while husband watches child. Bonding time for them and timeout for mum
Get therapy in the home ie occupational therapy, only if fees are the same as office visits. Limits travel and get a break
Get to bed early
Have a sleep in or an afternoon nap while husband watches child
Get a grandparent to take the child for a visit out to the park or shops
Get help in the home for tasks like housework and spend that time having quality time with your child
Have fun and do fun things as a family
The ways that I give myself ‘timeout’ are exercising ½ hour each day, whether it be walking or doing weights. I feel stronger and better able to cope with the stresses of caring for my children.
After all the kids are in bed or well before they wake up I go kayaking or fishing or if I am clever I combine them. So I leave after 10pm or get up at 4am. The morning one is the best. I get to be kayaking around as the sun comes up and then can be home by 7 or 8 on a weekend. I figure its only sleep, I will get plenty when I am dead.
I like to spend time in my back yard looking after the plants. I find this very therapeutic and I can do it and still have one eye on my little one while she watches T.V.
I also try to get a massage once a month as the tension builds up in my neck and shoulders without me even realising it.
When I get free time I also like to go clothes shopping. I don't necessarily buy anything but it's a great way to take my mind off stress of caring.i usually go to a Westfield shopping centre.the whole atmosphere in the clothes shops, music, upbeat staff reminds me that I am still young ( well in my 30s) and that I am me first, and caring is separate to who I am.
Hope this helps,